Are Your High Standards Keeping You Stuck?
Are you exhausted trying to get everything EXACTLY right?
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Tony Robbin's says, "Perfection is the lowest Standard..."
...When I heard that quote, I knew deep in my heart that he was talking to me. For so long, I struggled to meet my father's high expectations. He was the typical Asian father wanting the best for his children, however, I was not interested in becoming an Engineer and getting a job with the government. I wanted to paint and sing and be an astronaut.
So I tried over and over to please this man I called my dad with very little encouragement from him.
This attempt to get his attention, carried over into my pattern of trying to please every man and woman I came into contact with.
Because I knew, that if I did an outstanding job, I'd be recognized and validated. I got lots of gold stars, won a few awards and a couple of scholarships.
This pattern of over-achieving became a pattern of self-sabotage as I twisted and morphed and shifted into someone I no longer recognized.
have you ever experienced that feeling of not knowing who you are?
My childhood survival coping mechanisms were no longer serving me as I entered adulthood, got married and became a mother.
Depression, anxiety and the uncertainties of life brought out childhood fears and when my mom passed away, my whole world crashed.
My emotions were out of control, I couldn't stop crying. Something was definitely wrong with me so my loving husband encouraged me to seek out help. That was one of the hardest things for me to do because I thought I had to do it all by myself and that I was weak if I went to therapy.
What followed were years of therapy and Rx--one pill to control the anxiety, another to help me get happy and still another to allow me to sleep. I felt isolated, like my life was outta control. Being on medication kept me in a constant state of trying to get a cocktail that would work perfectly and left me feeling like every little daily activity was hard and terrifying.
I became a victim. Life kept happening to me in between doctor's appointments, the therapist and my nurse-psychiatrist.
Then, one day, while cooking, I heard a podcast where someone with a similar story had decided "Enough is enough." They quit their medication, started taking 100% responsibility and started living for their dreams.
I figured, "If she could do it, so can I."
And I know because I was able to do it, anything is possible--if you're here reading this, there's an alternate reality that you can step into, the moment you decide it's your time.
the magic of online coaching
With support and accountability, I slowly but surely began to realize that not only was I NOT BROKEN, I was enough and I was worth investing in. I spent thousands of dollars on online coaching courses to learn how to be a professional life coach.
I learned that my life experiences had given me a unique perspective so I could help guide others through the confusing experiences of life.
I also found that my coping patterns were actually my strengths over-used and abused.
Which brings me to you...you, me and every other human all have self-sabotaging patterns.
However...
You CAN Harness Your Strengths to DEFEAT Self-Sabotage
You know that voice in your head--the one that says, "What's wrong with you? Why can't you get that right?" Or maybe it even says, "You're a loser, you're stupid, you're inept," etc....
These voices are what I call Saboteurs or Villains. They are the voices in your head that generate ALL negative emotions as you handle life’s everyday challenges. They represent the automatic patterns in your mind for how to think, feel, and respond. Your Saboteurs not only cause all of your stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness, they also sabotage your performance, wellbeing, and relationships because everything's connected in life, including your body, mind and spirit.
Callout to Create Fallout
But first things first, you have to identify your sabotaging patterns and saboteurs to expose their lies and limiting beliefs. Luckily, I have it here and available for you and it only takes about 5 minutes. After you're done taking this assessment, forward your results to me, Lili McGovern, The Results Expert. I've spent years in school and taking certification after certification to understand why we behave the way we do and how we can stop suffering so much to feel better now.
The Saboteur Assessment is your first step to conquering your Saboteurs
SIGN up for a complimentary one-to-one call ($500 value) with me, a real live person, in your Strategy Support Call to understand how you're sabotaging yourself and what you can do to STOP that so you can START living your best life. SIGN UP HERE
Not only will you receive your 11-page personalized report FREE , you'll also get another FREE GIFT called, "Harness Your Strengths, Defeat Your Saboteurs" gift so you can focus on your strengths and not your saboteurs.
Or if you're simply curious if you have been sabotaging yourself, sign up below for the 9 ways ALL humans sabotage themselves and have fun choosing your top 3!
Remember, your history is not your destiny and every moment is a new moment to write your new story.
Buddhism elucidates one unchanging principle: Everything Changes.
So do you and so does your environment. That means that we're never in the same space twice and that sometimes, this time is the RIGHT time to make a change that sticks.
SIGN up for my FREE GIFT to you, a complimentary one-to-one call ($500 value) with me, a real live person, in your Strategy Support Call to understand how you're sabotaging yourself and what you can do to STOP that so you can START living your best life. SIGN UP HERE
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A Word from Lili...
Do you know those aspiring entrepreneurs who struggle taking action?
They get stuck in the idea phase because they aren’t willing to fail? OR their high standards have them taking certification after certification thinking, "If only I had more information, then I’d be ready." But more information just causes more overwhelm and these patterns get them into trouble, missing deadlines, and then feeling behind because every little detail matters. They lose sight of the big picture–getting results imperfectly AND getting things done.
Well, through my signature approach, “Your History is Not Your Destiny™,” I empower you to break free from perfectionism and self-doubt, moving toward substantial success and progress, able to take laser-focused action in the direction of your dreams.
In fact, my client Sharon wanted to be the female Tony Robbins BUT she was never satisfied with her videos so she could never get her message out. She felt discouraged and ready to give up. No matter how many times she started making videos, she never followed though. Well, through my coaching and program, she started pretending to talk to me in her videos and posting them in a safe place. Next thing I knew, she was taking massive imperfect action, making 2 or 3 videos on Tik Tok, everyday. Soon, she had a website, published the book she’d been sitting on for a year and now she’s getting traction in her online business and feeling more confident than ever in her speaking skills.
Do you know any wanna-be entrepreneurs who struggle with 'perfect portia' syndrome? Let’s talk.
This is my area of expertise, allow me to serve you so you can discover that your history is not your destiny.
Every moment is a new moment to shift into a NEW YOU.
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